Mind Body Relationship - Class-room lectures-Mind over Body |
Discussions with By Naran S. Balakumar
And Other Miscellaneous Topics
Table of Content
Right fingers reasons
Left Shoulders Pain
Messages from Left Side of the Body
Left Shoulder Back Pain – Messages and Indications
Approval of our Love Affairs by Body
Pain Caused By Cursing
Left Shoulder Back Pain – another issue to consider
Pain in the Left Shoulder Back after Father’s Demise
Right Shoulders
Right Shoulder Back Side Pain
Knees(next page)
Just 1% Mismatch between the Son and the Father
Postponement of Marriage
Swelling Pain
Hatred towards Father-in-law
A Son Repeats the Mistake Committed by his Father
There need not be a mistake...
Forgotten the Promise Made to Father
Left Tibia – Hatred towards Elders
Thighs
Deviating from Ancestral Business
Falling always on the left side – a Sign of Transition Required
Ankles
Pain in the left ankle
Pain in the Right Ankle – Reversing the decision to Marry
A Dancer in Doldrums
Misc Topics
Animal Spirits
A Wife Wanted Separation
Scheduling a Monthly Class
Traveling to Source of God
God’s Care 24/7
Agrimony
AcuReiki Pills – Thanks to Radionics!
Activating the Resource of Lord Krishna
Chakra breathing CD
Messages from Body If there’s a physical problem – a pain or suffering, there are three causes behind it – one is the physical cause, the second is the mental cause and the third is cause is karmic cause.
The karmic cause can be either known or unknown. We don’t know, what we have done to create it, but we will have to go through it.
Known and unknown cause includes our exposure to negative energy field that exists in some places – we don’t know what it is. Of course I don’t mean any connection to black magic here.
Such energies can’t touch you if you do a lot of meditation, do chanting or do a bit of a singing – chant Slokas and sing Bhajans. By singing Bhajans loudly, you will lose shyness, which will ward off negative energy from negative beings and fields. Then they will not affect us in anyway. You can sing silently to yourself also.
We can’t determine the karmic cause easily. There is a specific reason for connecting the mind and body. In that way when we identify the mental cause for the problem and find a solution, then it will complete the treatment. Though, by itself, it’s not a treatment. As soon as you find it, either it will relieve you 100% from the problem or some part of it. Your body uses the problem to warn you this is not the way to go. Take a different path, and rectify yourself.
You may be thinking you are right. But being right is not enough. Being lovable is important. Who wants your concept of right and wrong? If you say that you are right and the other person is wrong, then fight only remains. Body is informing you through pain or ailment “speak kind words” as well as that being loveable is important too. That’s why I say mental cause is important. You may take ant-inflammatory injection tablets. You would have been cured but failed to learn the lesson the body wants you to learn.
The stories I am going to tell you give the same message to you. You may be thinking you are right but the body says you are wrong. The problem might happen due to a mistake, even though it was committed 50 years back.
Let us not bother if there is no answer. Keep on probe. One day you will get the answer. God will give you the answer, provided you are into that continuously.
Let say there is a bus accident – one person gets hurt in the leg, one on the right eye, one on the neck and so on. Each one is given a different message. Otherwise they would have got hurt in the same place.
Left is receiving and right is giving. We are ruled by this left and right. Left – others thoughts about us. Right – our thoughts about others.
How to make sure that I have understood the messages from the body? If you understand the message, the pain will slowly come down. Then that’s the issue to be addressed. We should observe and see when the pain goes, then that's the portion of the issue to be healed and rectified. We should study whatever has happened and try to convert everything into positive.
You shouldn’t worry why the pain hasn’t gone completely. Idea is not to release the pain. It’s to find out what’s the real Life Issue that has caused the pain.
Through pain, body wants to tell you something. Why it is interested? It wants you to heal your life. This is important, so that it won’t gets repeated in the next life time – which would be a better one. So you have to observe the body.
What else you need from the body which is being abused. We don’t even know it exists. Only when there is stomach pain we remember our stomach. Only pain will remind us of that body part, which has created the pain. It’s so near but so far from us. It’s so close to us, yet we don’t see it.
Even then it remains loyal to us. It reminds us through pain, which is a blessing. Ailment is a kind of blessing, so that you transcend that suffering.
99% of people who get back pain say they don’t have support. In a therapy session, most of the time a patient might be talking about some stuff which won’t indicate the mental cause of the disease. But during the conversation, if they repeat an expression, say for example, “I have no support” three or four times, then give Bach Flowers Remedy based on that expression. That will take care of the problem.
In Mind-Body relationship the Core or Key Point is to heal your life, rectify our path and not the reduction of pain. The body is not stopping you to approach Allopathy or Homeopathy. It wants you to rectify life. So wherever you want to go to heal the problem, please go. Everything is divine. Every form of treatment is divine. Even allopathic treatment is divine. Take whatever is good for you.
That’s the attitude of the body. See that your pain is reduced. But have you taken care of your life portion. Have you taken care of your life? Ask the questions to correct your life. And from the answers you get, you will find the problem. Fix it.
The point to be noticed here is that handling the problem from physical disease point of view is important and healing your life also is equally important. If the pain goes when the message is understood then it’s ok.
Left arm pit – nobody is helping you, so suppressed anger will be present – Centaury, and Willow for pain.
Right side arm pit – Holly, Willow
Chicory for lower back pain
Being controlled, restricted, feeling hurt, handled badly, ruffled, being suppressed, subdued, not getting enough cooperation, struggling against hostility, facing quarrelsome situation, unable to handle others, and doesn’t know how to handle anger and jealousy of others.
Right hand -- hiding something or unable to understand something – a situation or a person
In all the above emotional situations, if there is pain in the left shoulder, arm, hand and fingers, the body’s message is “You have to assert yourself. In addition, set your Boundaries. Accept yourself! “
Case History:
A guy was not getting a reliving order from his current employer. In spite of his repeated requests, he could not get it. His apprehension was that when he joins the new company, he was afraid that they will ask for it. His left hand got hit against the front door of his house and became numb. When you loose all hopes of getting love, then numbness will set in.
What does it indicate? What does the body say? Talk to the new company and find a solution. Shed your fear and assert yourself.
When he called the new company’s HR manager, the latter replied not to bother about the reliving order and asked him to join the company on the specified date. He joined the company as specified and after ten days, he got the relieving order from the previous company.
Right side of the Body-shoulder, arm, hand
Controlling, restricting, manipulating (for example manipulating company accounts), not giving reliving order to associates, crisis of confidence, not giving enough co-operations to others, not sharing profits, unwilling to negotiate, not helpful, not accommodative, overworking, and inflexibility opposed to kindness and generosity. Right hand -- hiding something or unable to understand something – a situation or a person
If there is numbness from sitting long hours, then the remedies prescribed are: numbness from sitting (Leg – Hornbeam and Walnut, Hand – Wild Rose, Centaury, Pine and Willow) and may be iron less (take Iron and Calcium supplements)
Indications:
Somebody had a lower back pain. Lower back means support. To get it we have to be united with the people, for example our family members. Some things are imposed on us. Because we don’t like it, doesn’t mean that we can come out of it.
Rahini (in the class):
I was suffering from acute pain. This pain started from yesterday morning, when I just arrived from Delhi. The pain is still there. Naran S. Balakumar asked me to affirm “I release all the past, I am at peace and Divinity takes care of my future. I had been doing it for last two hours since the beginning of this lecture. Now the pain is gone totally.”
Naran’s observation: this lady is also childless and is feeling insecure.
A couple married for 25 yrs. Now she has a herniated disk and back pain.
On their first night, the lady told her husband that she is not interested in sex (she probably thought physical intimacy is not needed). That they will have sex only to give birth to a child and then they should abstain from it.
The husband would have wished if she would have told him earlier, he would not have married her at all. But, God has a reason behind every action. It’s god’s will.
They had a son and their physical relationship ended as she decided. She had imposed her will on her husband! In addition, she was separated from him emotionally.
Now after 25 years, around the age of 55, she has got the pain. For the past five years, she has consulted many doctors, but to no relief from the pain. She had undergone different kinds of treatments and had gone through various types of scans too.
Let us analyze her case.
Hernia means separation. Back disks are separated as she has separated (alienated) herself from her husband. Body is telling her now that what she had done 25 years ago back is not correct. Unfortunately at this age the mistake can’t be rectified. She can do only do forgiving. She did the forgiving exercise as follows:
When I suggested the above I didn’t have any hope. But after one month, she is almost alright, not perfectly alright though. She learnt yoga. Though initially she couldn’t sit on the floor, after doing Yoga and Pranayama, she gradually could sit on the chair. Now her movements are not restricted, and her pain is bearable as well. She was able to walk joyfully with little bit of a pain now and then.
But once you have realized what you had done and ready to rectify your life, then the body also adjusts and rectifies the pain, with the thinking, let this person be pardoned.
We may lack support after a sudden death of a spouse or somebody close to us. If there is a problem in the back, affirm that you are being supported enough by Divinity. Profusely from the heart give thanks to the deceased, who gave you support to you in the first place.
Thanking alone will relive the back pain. ”Divinity takes care of me” affirmation will help too.
What are the thoughts that turn into back pain?
You might be saying on a regular basis that you are not wanted in your family; you are not needed or heard by anyone; no support for you, and no role for you in the family.
Whenever such thoughts come to you, be careful, as no role means, you will get hurt in the back. Mind is making the body to create the pain. So be careful to avoid such thoughts.
If you say ‘I am unwanted’, ‘I have no role’ means you have to figure out how you can make yourself wanted here. How can I create a role here? You should change yourself accordingly.
It can happen in the office too. As a punishment, they will transfer you and bring you down. Both office and house are supporting places for us. Then we can have food in our belly. If you are de-promoted in the office, and then given a punishment transfer, you will start complaining to everybody that there is no role there. If you say like that, then you are digging your own grave and thus creating your own back pain!
Sometimes it can happen in the family that one can’t be in the position to support a person due to the circumstances.
A person aged 48 approached me for his lower back pain. The pain is more on the right side.
After finding that there is no financial insecurity, no loan to repay and no job insecurity, I asked him a simple question whether he is not giving the required support to any elders in the family? It may be due to the circumstances. If you say “yes”, then keep in mind that the body wants you to give the needed care and protection to that person. If you take steps for that, your body will relieve you from the pain. To find the veracity of this, you can chant, I willingly lend support to so and so. If the pain starts reducing, then this is the mental cause, and you have to follow what you said.
The message of the body is “do not create instability in others”. Then he came out with the story.
A father (widower) was taken care of by his four sons, taking turns after every three months. One son went on a business tour for a month and wants his brothers to take care of his father during that time. My patient was willing, but he could not take care of his father, because his spouse vehemently opposed it. Therefore, he said no to it, thanks to lack of assertiveness and out of fear. From the next day onwards, he developed back pain.
You may ask why his wife did not get back pain. That is not the matter here. If you get the pain, there is a message for you. Find that out and rectify your life.
Sometimes even young mothers may get back pain, when they deny their children to study outside the city. The mother stops them from going outside the home town. The reason being worrying or anxious about the safety of the son/daughter.
These are all (Bach Flower) Red Chestnut type fears – abnormal and irrational fears, which might spoil the future of the child.
If you develop back pain when you stop them then allow the son to study wherever he wants. You need not fear. To know what you need to do here, please do the following:
Thus, one has to overcome their fears. The back pain will vanish and in future it won’t come again.
Sundar is in mid 36. Suddenly he gets a back pain. This happened after two of his business partners left him for the business was not doing well. The business had some loans. When the partners were around, paying loan was difficult. How he will pay now singlehandedly?
That fear crippled him and then he developed a back pain. He was bed ridden for one month. He consulted some doctors. I asked him when the pain increases and when it decreases. Interestingly he has giddiness while coming down the stair case, and not while going up. There is a message here by the body.
See how body is giving such a wonderful message here.
When coming down, he was feeling giddiness; you feel that you are not in your control. Somewhere you feel you are losing control, which means my control of business is not there. While there is no pain, when climbing up the stairs. His body is saying, “Hey! You can move forward, go up”. Body says men may come men may go, but you go on forever. Without understanding that, he didn’t take the stairs, feeling fearful.
Points to be noted here:
Message here is: If you are ready to face the situation as your body says, you can do well. When I de-coded his body’s message for him, he was so happy and walked out confidently.
A girl got married. Very often she phoned up her mother asking for suggestions concerning her in laws. In no way she could mingle with her in-laws. In addition, she will complain about them to her parents. She compared her husband’s actions with her father’s and pointed out the differences.
She developed a lower back pain. Lower back means place of support. There is no pain while sitting or lying. There is pain only while walking. The body says “you are secured here. By your behavior don’t spoil your place in your new family. Adjust yourself to fit in here. This is your place of security.”
After marriage, the girl developed a feeling of being forsaken as she was away from her parents. Felt insecure and lonely without her father around. A sense of incapacity had set inside her. She was resisting to change and to adjust to the new environment and thus a new phase of her life.
One dose of Walnut and Chicory cured her pain. Within one month, she acclimatized to new environment. Change is the order of life. Please accept it.
Slip disk means support has slipped from you. It means, the support of vertebrae is not there now.
Keerthi Prasad developed a pain in the left elbow. In addition he was coughing for 15 years.
Left side means receiving – love. Suppose you don’t receive love from somebody or if you give more space to a person then you will suffer in the left elbow.
Elbow means embrace. If you have a problem there, then you can’t give love to anyone. His pain shows that he is not receiving his due love from his family.
Who is the culprit – his family or him? In his case he is the one. For 15 years he never laughed. He will not look at his wife while talking to her. He will keep finding fault with the cleanliness of house. By constantly criticizing and showing his anger to his wife and children, he maintained a stoic distance from them. There was disharmony in the house. They hate him so much that they don’t want him to be in the house.
“If the house is in order probably I may not be alive”, his wife says. Sometimes the person living with you will say what the body is saying to you.
Gave him Harmony pack – Beech for criticism, Willow for aversion and anger, and Walnut to change and adjust to his wife and children – and not the other way around.
He is a changed person now. His two children are very happy because they see him smile. Pain is almost reduced now and it’s bearable.
Cough represents anger, it’s more. Wet cough – recent anger and dry cough –anger is chronic.
Venki, a thirteen years old kid, whenever he takes a pen to write something, then he will get pain in his right arm – his writing hand.
If there is pain in the right hand – “take care of me” is the message. With the pain in his right hand, he is telling his parents to take care of him. What’s the problem here? He is terribly angry with his parents.
While he was talking with Naran, he was holding his left elbow. Elbows are used to embrace others. Right hand holding the left elbow – left elbow means he wants some love and appreciation and he desires for it.
Venki is studying in 8th standard. Not even once any of his parents attended his school. He comes first in athletics and a class topper in Tamil, his mother tongue. He is average in other subjects. No appreciation from his parents. His parents told him, if he gets 1st in any other subjects, like Math and science then they will come to school.
His body is saying is that his parents have not shown any love and appreciation. “Hey! Parents take care of me! I need to be loved”
Why he gets a pain in the right hand then. Observe where his hand is going. It touches the left elbow. Observe the gestures as well as the pain. They have more value than just mere words.
He was prescribed Chicory (longing for love) and Willow (for his anger against parents). His parents were advised to give the emotional security that the child needs.
Then a student of Naran in the class remarked the following incident that happened to her daughter. Her daughter felt pain in her right hand (anger). When the mother offered her to give some Bach Flower remedies, her daughter replied that the remedies have no effect on her. The daughter used to tell her mother she doesn’t have time for her. The latter is keener on other things.
After listening to Balakumar, she confirmed “probably now I understand, what her body is saying, that the mother doesn’t have time for the daughter and doesn’t take care of her.”
Remedies that will work here are Chicory and Willow. Tapping (EFT) can change the child and the parent effectively. Both are required. If the parent can take care of the child, then no other healing is required.
Until children are 14 years old, take care of them. Then they don’t need you. Now they need you to embrace them. Support them mentally and emotionally, and love them before they are 14 years old. If you are busy with work during this period then it will affect them. The children will decide to seek love elsewhere. They say I don’t care whether I am right or wrong. I get what I want.
Children are never to be blamed. Only the parents are the cause. Do EFT (absent healing) for the child to accept/love itself totally.
Until they are sixteen the children want the parents to take care of them. After 16 years, they say, “please don’t take care of me – meaning don’t bother me anymore. If you take care of them until they are 16, then you don’t have to worry about them.
You will get hurt in left hand thumb if you feel ill treated by your spouse. Remove that thought. It’s only an assumption and not a reality. |
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